It could mean they want to be friends with you or date you or fuck you. They want to wear makeup in elementary school, have sex in middle school, and move into their own apartment in high school. They want to be single for as long as possible to keep their options open. They want to hear that we want something semi-serious that could potentially turn serious if the planets aligned the right way. Half of all marriages end in divorce. Most people would rather keep their distance from love than risk getting their heart shattered.
It likes to screw with us. Liars screw up our plans. But people like us, people who want something serious, get screwed.
Why Dating Is So Hard Nowadays
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Having standards is great, but having them so unreachable that not even the Prince of Denmark would suffice is another story. Which brings me to my next point which is a lack of commitment.
Today, the risk of divorce is measured on how similar a married couple is based on education, upbringing, religion and race, according to The Washington Post. Basically, how compatible are you to the person you agreed to marry?
Why dating nowadays is so hard
Not to mention, if you go into something expecting it to fail because of past examples, then yes, expect it to fail. Which brings me to my final reason of why dating is so difficult today.
Never committing, not allowing the relationship to progress forward, or not having serious talks about the future makes the relationship easy to walk away from.
True, many Millennials are waiting until they are well into their thirties to settle down, and it seems to be a smart move considering it counts for some of why the divorce rate has continued to decline.
Striving for careers, more women breaking through corporate stereotypes, and other life priorities are all very valid reasons to focus on ones self over a relationship. Amber Kahwaji is an associate editor and contributing reporter at SmartFem. Amber provides daily content for SmartFem's online magazine as well as hosting various events for SmartFem Television.Why Is Dating Becoming So Difficult?
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