I'm dating a resident. And especially for people who are not in medicine, they should CHILL OUT because the resident most likely will never be on time for scheduled events but that is not their fault. That is life as a resident. And life in medicine in general. I think number 1 should be: Take Stock of Yourself - If you are a needy, co-dependant person, you probably shouldn't be dating a doctor. Applications are available to independent, confident people who preferably have their own support system only.
Much of their time is spent alone and they do a lot of the child rearing. This is not for everyone, for sure.
If you get with an engineer they mostly have a day job…if you get with a doctor they have crazy hours and are on call. A woman has to know this upfront and deal. Now, if he has gone radio silent that would not be acceptable either…he could text or call you more often.
Your just living your life, meeting and dating men without any goal or objective until enough time has passed getting to know him well enough to even consider him as a good candidate.
All my long-term relationships were when I had zero romantic feelings for them but over-time several months they grew on me and decided to give him a shot became a couple. But I think I would have gotten one text by now? Is this radio silence? Just short-term dating but I still want to have fun. Doctors marry doctors or nurses because they get each other. He may have just had a quiet week when he was able to talk a lot or think about dating. Does that apply here too? Sure, quiet for a few days, for a really busy person is not that big of a deal.
Hi, I have a really good friend, not a boyfriend, but we are important one another. On top of this, right now he has a lot of personal stuff to deal with — finding a new flat, seeing his grown up children weekends, dealing with his divorce and selling his business.
But he finds time for me, and I know he does for other friends, because he cares enough to do so.
What to expect when dating a resident?
He lives a long way from me, but we meet about once a month. So what I am saying is that I think if a friend can find the time, a boyfriend certainly should not let a week go by with no contact, however busy he is!
Before posting here I was thinking a week max too.
Honestly I think I can consider it about a week by now right? Is there a way to find out? Kind of just want to ask him…. He kind of seemed to want an actual relationship though, not positive though. But this whole is what led me here.
He asked me on two dates, nothing has changed on my end from the last one. One thing about men is they are realists. Why should he waste his time and money on you knowing your moving soon?
Let him go and stop dating if your going to be moving soon and wait until you get to your new destination. Thank you so much!
I agree- I was surprised he even asked me out in the first place considering that I am moving. When he asked me what I was looking for, I told him exactly what I wanted and my situation. He still continued after. I guess he could have changed his or met someone else. Mail will not be published required: You may use these HTML tags and attributes: The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by A New Mode, Inc.
What to expect when dating a resident? Viewing 25 posts - 1 through 25 of 47 total. April 4, at 2: April 4, at 7: April 4, at 9: April 5, at 9: April 5, at 1: April 5, at 2: April 5, at 4: Like Liked by 1 person. I am currently dating a surgeon resident and have found this article to be extremely helpful. I would really like to know how you and your husband were able to work through the stress and emotional burdens.
Please send me an email and look forward to hearing from you. Nate, if you ever need support, I am here to email: It is so hard.
Really appreciate you posting this. Thank you for posting. So glad you stopped by! Thank you for lettomg me know that you read this… it makes ME feel a lot less alone, too. I am currently dating a resident as well.A Day in the Life of Neurosurgery Residents at Carilion Clinic
We live an hour and half away and it wasnt as easy to see him. With him being at hospital, he teaches as well so time is really very challenging.
But I do my best to understand everything. He text few times a day and call once a day that makes me happy. I just need more understanding to keep up with all these challenge. That distance is definitely tough! Surgeon used to live 45 mins away, an hour if traffic was bad… it was really hard, but we mitually were okay with spending the weekend at each others place. That made dinners, movies, and just hanging out a lot easier.
What would you like more of, though? Is it quality time, or something else? I think it helps pinpointing what you need we ALL need things and then relaying it to your partner.
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