Dating can be difficult for everyone at one time or another. Disability or not, finding a date, asking for a date, and actually going out on a date can be stressful. What do you do when you have a disability and want to date? Should you just forget about it and move on single for the rest of your life? You can get yourself together, create a goal and follow your dreams no matter what people say or what self-doubt is in your mind. I would be lying to you if I said dating is easy when you have a disability.
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She's sharing all she's learned with you. Online Dating with a Disability. Read on to learn how Erin took charge of her love life. Sheypuk is a clinical psychologist who specializes in dating, relationships and sexuality among people with disabilities.
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Dating and disabilities
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It is hard to make such websites safe and comfortable for genuine users while keeping them open to non-disabled people who are looking to contact disabled people for different reasons. For me, knowing that I have the understanding of any partner is liberating and lets me be myself.
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With the options available on existing dating websites, I feel exposed, vulnerable and inhibited. They aren't conducive to conveying the sensitive, caring and confident image I would like to project and limit the usability of these websites. A disability is not part of your personality. Instead, like race or sexuality, it forms part of the context in which your personality develops.
Often, disabled people are stereotyped, as if we were all the same. This replicates the experience disabled people often have in the education system, where schools tend to group together children with disabilities, regardless of severity or type.
This may be practical for a school, but it's often unhelpful or limiting for disabled pupils themselves. It can not only create unpleasant or very limiting experiences for disabled students, but also encourages a generalized fear of disability amongst non-disabled people, which persists even later in life.
After that first rejection, I updated my profile to include my disability. I am still receiving just as many winks and likes as I did before, but I am a lot more secure in the knowledge that people are taking an interest in me in spite of my disability. In fact, I would encourage others to be more open on their profiles. It hasn't limited my prospects in the way I initially feared it would.
I know I am not alone. Being busy and focused on goals are attractive qualities, but more importantly, they are great for your own self-esteem and worth. When someone shows interest in you, it can be exciting, awesome, thrilling and happy.
Let yourself feel all of these emotions. Keep in check how you feel as well.
The dating world of disabled people
Trust me, there are many people out there who will love you for being you. Be as honest about your disability as you feel comfortable. But through dating experiences, I learned that the more they understood, they better could focus on who I was as a person and not just a disability. Unfortunately, nothing can shelter you from heartbreak, disability or not. Of course it hurt my feelings.
However, I picked myself up and moved forward. It might take time, even years, to find someone who fits you, but do not settle. Think of dating like a job interview.
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